Happy New Year to all! Welcome to The Yellow Kite, I’m glad you’re here. Things are not quite up to speed just yet, but I promised the new blog would be up and running 1/1/12 and I’m a woman of my word! If you’ve popped in from DollyDoormatDoesntLiveHere, this blog and corresponding website will take the place of Dolly in the very near future and I hope you will continue to follow me in this new adventure.
I wish you blessings of health, wisdom, abundance, inner strength, and peace for 2012 and all your days! There are great things in store for The Yellow Kite, myself and you, too, during this year. Please join me for a year filled with exploration and growth! Let’s start today–knowing you can start again tomorrow, and again the day after that, and again each and every day!–with my alternative to New Year’s Resolutions:
I take up arms against the annual tradition of New Year’s resolutions. I am, obviously, all about self-improvement, change, reinvention, commitments, etc. so it’s not those things that turn me off. It’s the actual term and the connotation it carries.
Here is Wikipedia’s definition of a New Year’s Resolution:
- A New Year resolution is a commitment that an individual makes to a personal goal, project, or the reforming of a habit. This lifestyle change is generally interpreted as advantageous. A New Years Resolution is generally a goal someone sets out to accomplish in the coming year.
The following are dictionary.com’s definitions of resolve:
- a resolve or determination: to make a firm resolution to do something.
- the act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action, method, procedure, etc.
- the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.
- the act or process of resolving or separating into constituent or elementary parts.
Are you wondering what bristles me about these terms? First of all, while Wikipedia expresses that a resolution is generally advantageous, the rest of it sounds like work! Drudgery, fault-fixing, lack-finding, and something we should do. Looking to dictionary.com’s definition, two things irk me. The first is reference to the mental state or quality of being resolved/resolute and the second is reference to separating into elementary parts. Are you getting a sense of what I feel here? Resolutions take on a tone of doing something we feel we should do, and treating the subject of our resolution as something independent! Huh? I know, I’m fussy. However, I believe, and proof has shown me, that when we face a task with a must-do or should-do attitude and as separate from who we be at our core, we simply cannot maintain the desire, cannot exert the effort, and will fall short of our resolution goals. And, God forbid, we fail…we have to wait until New Year’s of the following year to try again? How ridiculous!
So do I simply kick along without goals and direction? Absolutely not, but I do not resolve, I aspire, and I do so regularly, not just on one day a year! When we ASPIRE toward something an entirely different mindset and energy kicks in!
Let’s look at dictionary.com’s definition of aspire:
- to long, aim, or seek ambitiously; be eagerly desirous, esp. for something great or of high value
- to rise up; soar; mount; tower.
Do you feel the difference? Instead of plodding along toward a goal, you instead seek ambitiously, eagerly desire, and soar! Aspiring expands who you are! It embraces your heart and soul and deepest longings–it’s not about fitting into a smaller size dress, it’s about honoring your body and feeling great in your body, and wanting to move through life lighter and healthier. Aspiring to greater abundance doesn’t mean you beat yourself up for not having enough money, instead you start seeing the glorious abundance already in your life and desire more of that. If you aspire toward a better home, appreciate the one you have, tend to it, feel how it blesses you in the now, then day by day, fine tune what you desire in your next home. Collect pictures of spaces that make you feel good, feel what it will be like when you lay your head down to sleep in that home or the joy others will feel when being entertained in your home. And as you do this, let your aspiration guide you in your spending habits–when you want a new home/abundance more than a new shirt, you won’t resent putting that money aside. When you want to feel great about your body, you won’t resent passing the dessert table. Stop letting your head tell you that you MUST (resolve) to being something other than you are, and instead listen to your feelings and your heart as they encourage you to ALLOW yourself to become all that you are.
I want great things for you and I want you to find them in a great, good-feeling way! Today as we begin 2012, let your desire for change come from the aspiration of expanding into all the AMAZINGNESS that you are! Aspire, aspire, aspire and like the yellow kite, set yourself soaring!
With great love and support,